Deepak Arora
Member: American Association of Sexuality Educators Counselors and Therapists.
You would read numerous magazines, refer to endless online websites, pick up the best of books on sexual information, go through all literature written by sex experts but still you remain aloof from the very basics about sex and do not get the much required sex knowledge. Alas! It could be the worst chapter in your sexual relationship.
Lack of sex education can be even worse than not having sex with your partner. Inadequate and inappropriate knowledge can not only affect your emotional bonding with your partner but may also lead to a failed marriage also. Lack of sex education can put you at risk of developing several health problems, create misunderstanding with your mate, make you sexually inactive and instill a feeling of being sexually unsatisfied.
Lack of sex education can lead to such problematic aftermaths, which might be too hard to be corrected later. So before picking up wrong sexual information from random sources, take a look at what lack of sex education can do to you and your relationship….
Reduction in sex drive: Until and unless you don’t know how to arouse your partner and get them going for a lovemaking mood, you cannot boost your own sex drive also. It’s important for both partners to be well aware of the techniques, which can hit the trigger zones in the other partner and stimulate them for an intimate session. Not knowing these ways would only lead to a reduced sex drive in both the partners and thus their sexual interaction would not be as pleasurable as desired.
Use of illicit drugs: Many couples, especially the male partners, end up taking illicit drugs either to improve their bedroom performance or to give a boost to their sexual libido. They fail to realise that these drugs can have more side effects than their good deeds and it is all because of lack of sex education. Those who suffer from any problem should consult a specialist and not just blindly pick up drugs to satisfy their sexual urge.
Wrong medication: Being educated on sexual matters is not that tough as it has been perceived to be. Couples who strive hard to attain a healthy sexual relationship and want to get rid of any sexual problems that come in way of their pleasure are prone to get influenced by wrong medications suggested by random sources. In a bid to treat disorders like erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation, males often take wrong medicines, which can further worsen their sexual condition.
Teenage sex: The dangerous aftermath of lack of sex education is indulging in early sex, especially during teenage years. It is that tender age when girls attain puberty and boys also feel sexually more active and in an excitement, they feel keen to get involved in sexual acts. While the act of masturbation is quite common and most teenagers perform it regularly without much knowing about its good and bad points, there are many youngsters who want to try the real act with a partner beside. Here, these teenagers do not know much about what this sexual session can cost them and unaware of all the consequences, they just take pleasure in the moment. They fail to understand the importance of using protection (condom) and doing sex slowly and not wild. Due to this lack of sex knowledge, they regret later because unsafe sex can lead to unwanted pregnancy or cause several diseases.
Create myths: Those who love having sex would do it anytime of the day. They would not think much about approaching their partner for a wild session. But for those who are not much educated with sex know-how, keep believing the wrong notion that more sex can harm their health. There are couples who still follow this myth that frequent sex can make them weak and hence they don’t perform the act too often and this creates a visible vacuum in their relationship and affects their married life too. It’s a sheer ignorance and lack of information that educated couples also believe in sex related myths.
Unawareness: Due to lack of sex education, couples are not able understand the symptoms of sex problems like Erectile Dysfunction and Premature Ejaculation. They know that something is wrong with them sexually but fail to find a solution. And by the time they understand, it becomes too late to be handled appropriately. So sex education becomes a must to avoid any chances of developing these sex problems.
Ignoring foreplay / after play: It’s rightly said that a good foreplay can set the mood right for a steamy session in bed and a happy after play can keep up the romance quotient alive between partners. But again, due lack of sex knowledge, many couples ignore the importance of foreplay and after play and prefer focusing only on the main act of intercourse. But this is not the right thing to do because unless you connect with your partner romantically and emotionally, it’s tough to bond sexually in bed. Hence foreplay holds much importance for all.
Impotency: Almost all couples - newly married or those who have been together for years - gratifying sex is indeed top on their wish list but over that having a kid is something which every couple looks forward to. In order to boost their fertility power, those individuals who fear being impotent, often find themselves in a fix due to lack of education. They fail to trace the appropriate reasons behind impotency and wish they had sufficient knowledge to help them be content sexually, physically and emotionally.
Divorce: Marriage is a feeling of contentment and making it further complete, sex comes as an add-on. But if partners fail to satisfy each other in bed, their relationship can go for a toss and separation might be the only way out. If they had proper knowledge about sex and matters related to sexuality, they would be able to handle things with ease. But couples who keep facing clashes due to lack of sexual know-how, there are more likely to have a bitter divorce.
Feeling of discontentment: Practice makes a man perfect but if you continue doing the thing in a wrong manner, it may get even worse. Same goes with sexual performance. If you perform sex in a wrong way and are unable to please your partner, there arises a feeling of being unsatisfied. So being well-versed with sexual matters can help you live a healthy and happy marriage.
Sexually transmitted diseases: You might think that by performing certain sexual positions, you are being innovative and creative in bed but the fact might be opposite to what you think. Lack of sex education can pose risk of developing several health problems like sexually transmitted diseases or infection to other partner. Couples who are less aware about sexual facts become victims of these diseases and this can adversely affect their relationship.
Having said it all, it’s evident that lack of sex education can do much harm to your physical and mental well being. So, it’s better that you seek proper advice from your doctor or take counseling from a sex expert who can tell you all about how to lead a sexually healthy and happy life. Also, make sure that you clear all your doubts and apprehensions before that doctor, thus avoid any further chances of being unaware about any sex related matter.
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