With most couples struggling hard to have a happy married life well complimented with healthy sexual relations, it’s quintessential to be in sync during the bedroom action. Due to a hectic modern day lifestyle, partners often fail to give in to the needs and demands of other mate, hence problems, sexual dissatisfaction, personal disliking and obvious loathing start brewing in their love paradise.

 

You may try your best to counter these problems but if every discussion ends up being heated arguments, things will get even worse. Then arises a point when you start seeking please elsewhere and the only choice that strikes your mind is to step out of your present relationship. Well, the phenomenon of getting sexually intimate with someone, other than your married partner, is nothing new. And in India, the scenario has only moved to a bigger level in the past decade. Call it the need of hour or your personal choice, having an extra marital affair cannot do any good to your current relationship.

 

SEXUAL DISSATISFACTION: The major reason why you would decide to form a physical relation outside your marriage is because of ‘sexual dissatisfaction’. When you are not getting the desired enjoyment from your wife or husband, you do not feel the urge of getting intimate in bed. This forces an individual to hunt for sexual gratification with another partner. Several studies have elucidated that a female move out of their married relationship when there is sexual discontent and their male partner cannot satisfy their sexual needs whereas the reason why men look out for another woman is certainly due to their wish to feel the change and get more excitement with a new partner. Also when a male is unable to perform well in bed, it is the fear, complexion and stigma to face his partner that pushes him to isolate himself, which may or may not lead to an extra marital affair. However, females usually do not get any inferiority complex if their sexual performance is not up to the mark yet they try to improve their acts and remain close to their husband.

 

UNHAPPY ABOUT PHYSICAL APPEARANCE: The way you and your partner look often affects your sexual life. Be it the case that you are not confident about your looks or the other way round that your partner doesn’t have a pleasing personality, in both cases, there will be an evident discomfort during lovemaking. To get rid of this, individuals often look out for a suitable mate in terms of looks and physical appearance, which allows them perform better in bed.

SEXUAL BOREDOM: Another very common reason to estrange your present partner and indulge with someone else is out of sheer boredom. After years of marriage, couples often start missing the fun and thrill which initially existed in their relation. As a result, they seek excitement elsewhere. This case of cheating on your partner is purely out of an experiment and an urge to give a boost to your sexual performance by getting out of the daily boredom.

INCAPABILITY TO FULFILL SEX FANTASIES: Many a times, when you are unable to meet the sexual expectations of your partner, it instills a feeling of being imperfect in bed. This not only lowers your libido but also forces you to gain that sexual perfection to be able to understand your partner’s sexual desires. Hence, many individuals get involve with a second partner to put their desperation on rest.

 

 

WEAKENS THE LOVE BOND: As you decide to step out of your marriage, seeking pleasure with another partner, your married life goes for a toss. The love bond you share with your married partner gets the jerk where may love them like always but the fact that you’re involved with someone else too, may make you feel guilt somewhere and this in turn weakens the love connection.

CREATES SEXUAL VACUUM: Most extra marital affairs are a result of sexual dissatisfaction from one partner. So, once you start getting that enjoyment outside, it certainly affects your sexual bonding with your present partner to a large extent. The fact that you are sexually involved with a second man/woman often leads to create a gap between you and your married partner. As you devote more time to that extra marital affair, the frequency with which you used to get intimate with your partner goes down as a faster pace.

 

MAKE THE PARTNER FEEL DISOWNED: Even if your partner is unaware of your extra marital relationship, they somehow can smell the disinterest you show in them. This not only makes them feel cheated but also they get a feeling of being disowned in a relationship. If it continues for long, there might be a situation when your marriage fails and the other partner keeps sulking in throughout their life. 

LEADS TO SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASES: Indulging in sexual acts with more than one partner has a huge tendency of giving you sexually transmitted diseases. Since most partners seek sexual pleasure with another person, the excitement gets too much to handle that they often opt for unsafe sex without any protection. As a result, their sexual and mental health is put at stake both in the present relations and that extra marital affair.

1. Do not treat sex as a duty or obligation done every night. Treat it as a pleasure and quality time spent with your partner and this will help you making it a memorable experience rather that something you loathe.

 

2. Whenever you feel there is some sort of sexual problem with you, instead of keeping it only in your heart and mind, tell your partner about the same. Prefer consulting a doctor, a sex expert who can help you solve this otherwise this deteriorates the sex bond you share with your better half.

 

3. Try to understand each other sexual preferences and respect it. When it comes to trying out untried and different sex positions; do not deny or hesitate. Be ready to experiment and make your partner feel that you value their sexual needs.

 

4. Do not argue with your mate over sexual things like time when you should have sex, duration for how long a sex session shall continue etc because this makes it look as if it’s being forced on you. Show an equal participation and enjoy it for an ultimate bliss. 

 

5. Share your sex desires with much more comfort. Once you are aware of each other’s needs, give due importance to fulfilling those sexual fantasies. If you will not share yours with them and listen to theirs, chances are high that they start seeking for someone else who is more concerned towards these bedroom desires.

 

6. Take out plenty of time to sit back and indulge in healthy conversations with each other. Not just sexual in nature but talk about your relationship in general. This makes your partner feel secure, being loved and cared for, hence doesn’t leave any scope for them to move out of the present relationship.

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