Has he got more sex drive than you?
Has he got more sex drive than you?
As we all know, great sex isn't all about the actual act. The build-up and foreplay is just as important and if it's really good it will drive you and your Man wild.
So to prove that there's more to sex than intercourse, we've come up with 10 great things for you and your Man to try to get you right in the mood for things to come.
Try just one or all of them – Our professional experience with our patients positive results say that, you won't be disappointed...
1. Have a real kiss
Can you remember what it was like to kiss someone when you were a teenager? Touching lips was the most amazing experience and something we tend to forget as we grow up and settle into a relationship.
Well, we say bring back good old-fashioned songfests! And here are some tips for how to get him going just using your lips.
• Start by gently holding his face in your hands and kissing him lightly on the lips.
• Now softly kiss him all round his lips and the bottom half of his face, keeping your lips closed.
• Move down to his neck and now you can open your mouth and give a light suck and even a little nip.
• Now go back to his mouth for proper French kiss - but don't ram your tongue in and out like a drill. Flicker it like a butterfly and run it around your partner's lips and around your mouth.
• Moan: Men love noise and it's another sense that's being stimulated - plus, sound is a sense that's not used enough in the bedroom.
Your kiss should last as long as you want it to. Men tend to enjoy kissing less than women, but if you get it right you should be able to keep it going for ages.
2. Enjoy the Dance
Dancing together can be one of the most erotic and sensual activities you do, outside of sex itself.
We've all watched Strictly Come Dancing and seen how amazing the Latin dances can be and the closer you get, when you're doing the samba, salsa or just moving in time to music, the more intense the sensation will be.
So put on some fun, lively music that hopefully won't get you in fits of laughter as soon as you both start dancing.
Then, and here's the important part, you need to touch each other. Put your arms around each other and sway gently.
Move your groin towards his and you should get a pretty instant reaction. In fact, just move and get close. The very act of rubbing against each other, even if you are wearing clothes should be enough to get him and you very aroused.
To take it even further, start to take off items of clothing while you're dancing - assuming you're somewhere you can do this!
3. Do a sexy dance just for your Man
Stripping for fun for your Hubby is a surefire way to get him going and it should you get you in the mood as well.
The major thing to remember about doing this is that you have to relax and try to enjoy it. The more tense and nervous you are, the more difficult it will be.
The second thing you might want to do is practice a couple of times. We're not suggesting you need to choreograph a routine, but getting used to taking items of clothing off without falling flat on your face will make sure you don't spoil the moment. It might also help you decide what to wear to make it easier.
Pick music that you can easily imagine yourself dancing around to and then just go for it when he's not expecting it.
The golden rules of doing a striptease are:
• He cannot touch you. You can touch him, but his hands must stay put
• Keep your eyes on him at all times
• Leave the clothes where they land - you'll break the spell if you keep tidying up
• Think about your outfit. Not only do you want clothes that will come off easily, but you also want to look sexy for him. Keep the big pants in the knickers drawer.
4. Read him a naughty tale
Men may be turned on more by images than words, but getting him to make up his own images in his head can be even more powerful.
The idea of this trick is to tell your man the most erotic, dirty, sexy story you can think of and let his own brain - and hands - do the work.
You have two choices here:
1. Either make up your own story and let your own imagination run wild
2. If your creativity isn't up to it, borrow one of his girlie mags and read him one of the stories from the back.
As with the striptease routine, while you're reading out loud, he's not allowed to touch you at all, but he can touch himself as much as he wants.
Watch him get totally turned on - and either stop when you don't think he can cope any more, or let him do all the work himself. Have fun!
5. Have a sex picnic
We all know about aphrodisiacs and their powers to get both men and women going, so start by getting hold of some of the ones you and your Man like the best.
But remember, a sex picnic is all about the fingers and the body so choose your foods with that in mind.
Get rid of all distractions, turn on some music and then break out the food and drink.
Start by feeding each other things like strawberries, asparagus or chocolate, depending on your preference.
Then move onto placing items of food on him or you and take turns to eat it off each other. Try using chilled champagne, cava or even ice cream to vary the temperature. It really turns people on.
And to make sure it's not all about the food why not buy a sex book or rent a naughty video - just in case you need any more distractions and ideas!
6. Have a good Massage
Massage shouldn't just be reserved for when you have strained or pulled muscles - it's one of the most erotic things you can do to each other without actually having sex.
Get some soothing music, candles and the right oils sorted out and then get down to it.
Make your man lie face down on the bed with a towel to rest on and then set to work rubbing and kneading his body. Start with the neck and shoulders and slowly work down.
You can use all parts of your hands, including knuckles and wrists to vary the pressure.
Wait until you feel your man really relax before you start to move towards the real erogenous zones. Firmly rub the bum and thighs and listen to him start to moan before you gently get closer to his genitals.
Make sure you stop before he gets too aroused - you want him to return the favour, don't you?!
7. Have a pillow fight
Exercise really gets the blood pumping and the feel good endorphins that are released are similar to how you feel when you get aroused and have sex.
But we're not suggesting you go for a run or spend an hour at the gym to get each other in the mood.
Instead, head straight for the bedroom and pick up a pillow each. Now start a play fight with them - don't hit too hard, but do it enough to begin to get out of breath.
Before you know it, you'll be jumping all over the bed, raining feather-filled blows on each other and, hey presto, those feel good endorphins will start to build up inside you.
By the time you collapse into a heap on the duvet, you won't be able to keep your hands off each other.
8. Try virtual sex
You don't have to be in the same room as your Hubby to get him going. Why not send him messages while he's at work or out of the house to put him in the mood?
You can either text him and ask him questions that will start to get his mind racing, like: 'Guess what I'm wearing today?' or 'Where do you think my hand is now?'
Or try sending him pictures of you doing naughty things, if your phone allows you to - and remember if he can't see the whole picture, then it'll really tease him and make him what you're up to.
If he uses a computer at work, then you could send him naughty, flirty emails telling him what you want to do tonight - the hotter the better.
He won't be able to resist thinking about you and the fact that he's getting them at work will make him really aroused. That'll take his mind off those boring spreadsheets!
These are the few ways with those you can improve your sex life, so try it and give us your precious feed back in the testimonial section and your comments about this article can be given here.
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