‘Tall, dark, handsome and rich’ or ‘slim, trim and beautiful and sexy’ – these are primarily the qualities that most partners look out for in their Prince Charming or Lady Love. Have you also been longing to get married but still looking out for that ‘perfect match’? Well, I suggest you to think again, for there is nothing called a ‘perfect match’– you have to make it perfect for you.
Yes, this more-or-less virtual term seems to be prevalent so much so that people stick to these preferences for so long, that it may get too late to find a compatible match to spend rest of the life with.
While men keep pondering on questions like will she satisfy my sexual needs? cope with my erratic work timings and take care of my family, women too are apprehensive about whether the husband would keep her happy, share her feelings and stand by her in all circumstances. Here are a few things you need to be aware of when looking for an ideal match for yourself.
It’s nothing else but illusion
Perfect match – it’s virtual, is created and is all in mind. Understand that desire for a ‘perfect partner’ arises from an insecure and unsure mind. Marriage is a new chapter in life that brings along anxiety, apprehensions and hopes about future.
To ease these mixed emotions, you try to put a lot of clauses while choosing your prospective match. But you don’t realise that problems, adjustments, compromises will still happen. So, it’s nothing but a parameter created by partners and their families to feel comfortable and any person who fits this bill, seems to be the ‘perfect match’. Once you stop measuring and start valuing what your partner has, you will find your soul mate.
Everything that glitters is not gold
Let’s assume for a minute that ‘prefect match’ does exist but does it give you a guarantee for lifetime? Not really! For the fact that what initially might look as ‘perfect’ may turn ‘imperfect’ at a later stage. With partners aiming high in life, they find it hard to strike a balance (which seemed easy initially) to sustain the relationship. In such situations, the universally accepted ‘perfect match’ phenomenon holds no value.
The reality is that people change and a spouse isn’t likely to be exactly the same person you got married to. One may have chosen a partner keeping in mind certain qualities, however, once romantic love wears off; they begin to get weary of those same qualities. What matters the most is how you handle the difficulties, and,the attempts you make to understand and adjust with each other.
It’s all about a package deal
You would keep creating an image of the ‘perfect partner’ in your mind but ever wondered what exactly these qualities are that would help you to label someone as ‘perfect’. Is it a package of looks, money, job, family, status etc or there’s something more? Studies have shown that men being more physical in nature look for a partner who is beautiful, cheerful, gentle, considerate, kind-hearted, value oriented, independent, intelligent, and spiritual, has a nice figure, sweet voice and common interests, and is a good cook. Women being more emotional seek love, financial security, flexibility, social status, looks, intelligence, empathy, sense of humour and physical compatibility.
Most individuals want their partner to be ‘understanding’. So shed all your inhibitions while choosing your ‘perfect match’ and tie the knot with someone who bears a good level of understanding and will do all he/she can to make you happy.