The lack of proper communication in a relationship can handicap the intimacy. Communicating properly and clearly is the only way that that couples are able to achieve true intimacy. It is important to note that this should be a two- way traffic. It involves saying the right things, in the right way, as well as learning to listen to your partner.
Learning how to communicate with your partner forms the foundation of strong relationships. Here 5Â ways in which communicating properly may help improve your connection.
1.Non-Verbal Communications
Non-verbal communications are a way of communicating feelings, not with words, but with your body language. Sometimes, this form of communication is better where words fail. At all times, ensure that your body language matches your word. You should not confuse your partner by giving them mixed reactions.
In short, always say what you mean because in the end it will be reflected in your actions. Do not say that you are happy with your partner when you are looking all gloomy or say that you love them then treat them without any affection. This will compromise the connection that you share. At all times be honest. It is only by staying honest that you will be able to always match your actions to your words.
Touching is an excellent tool for communicating without the need for words. You can express how you feel by the way you touch your partner. Make a habit of holding their hands, both in private and in public. In public, touching is sensual. It shows them that you are proud to be seen with them. On the other hand, when in private, touching can be both sexual and sensual. It may be a way of showing your partner that you appreciate their presence. Also, it can be used to make your partner comfortable and ease the mood for romance.
Improving your self-image is also a great non-verbal tool. It is a gesture that you want to look good for your partner. By maintaining a good self-image, your self-confidence also improves. This will allow you have a clear focus and truly understand what your partner is saying without misjudging them.
2. Listening
Hearing and listening are two different things. Listening is where you grasp what your partner says. It helps you learn your partner better. It allows you interpret your partner’s message and truly understand what they are feeling. It is through proper listening that you will be able to take the right action or say the right things. Before you speak, you should first listen.
Listening means that you actually have to spare time and pay attention to your partner. Do not let your partner feel like they are competing for your attention with other things. Instead of coming home and spending all your time watching the TV or playing video games, spare some time to listen to your partner. Let them share their day’s experiences. Careful listening will help you understand the desires and fears of your partner. It will also make your partners feel appreciated. If you can listen, your partner will always feel at ease talking to you.
If you are in a relationship, empathetic listening is the best listening skill to apply. Especially, when your partner approaches you with a topic that is really important to them. With empathetic listening, you put your judgements aside. This creates a true and strong connection between you and your loved one.
3. Speaking with a Positive Tone
It is not all times that you and your partner will have a positive conversation. Negatives are part of life, and as so, they must be addressed. However, the way you address it will either be a deal breaker or help to strengthen your relationships. At all times, learn to speak with a positive tone, regardless of whether you are happy or angry at your partner.
Remember that your partner is not a child. Therefore, do not speak to them as if you are commanding them or giving them rules. Also, never raise your voice on your loved one. Speaking at a regular tone will get your message across as well. Besides, just because you are angry doesn’t mean that your partner is responsible for the anger. There might have been a misunderstanding and if you are rude to your partner, you might end up feeling stupid after they explain themselves.
When speaking, always ensure that your message is clear. You do not want to be misunderstood. Lay your points out carefully, ensuring that your loved one gets the message as you intend them to. Use your message to strengthen your love.
4. Learn When to Address Issues
Every relationship has its fair share of problems. However, this is not the biggest issue. The issue is how you address these problems. Find the right time to share your feelings with your partner. Ensure that your partner is in the right mood when you are addressing certain problems.
Wrong- timing may be burdening on your partner and they might not even listen to what you are saying to the point of properly interpreting your message. This will only end up frustrating you and your partner.
5. The Issue of Mind-reading
Your partner is not a mind- reader. Do not expect them to read your mind. Instead of doing, clearly speak out your thoughts, opinions, and feelings. This will prevent the frustration of always expecting your partner to react in a certain way.
Also, do not try to read their mind. In doing so, you might get a message that your partner did not intend to pass across. This will only have adverse effects on your relationship.