A lot of times you tend to ignore the red flags of frustration and discontentment your partner has been showing. It never occurs to you that a series of conflicts and differences can lead to permanent damage to your relationship or even break it forever.
Relationships can get heated and contentious.
You can complain endlessly about your needs not met or not getting enough affection, but the truth is that you can only work on your own behavior without expecting much from your partner.
So here are the few behavioral modifications, which if taken in time can sustain your bond with your partner.
1.Talk it out
Don’t avoid the issue, which is creating the underlying tension in your relationship. Initiate and bring the subject up so you can discuss it and come to an amicable solution.
2.Keep it short
Discuss the problem in as few words as possible. Overstating the issue won’t lead to a specific result. No accusations, complaints or sarcastic digs. Speak about what you want from your partner in three sentences or less. Keep it compact.
3.Talk about your feelings
Don’t start the blame game unless you want to start a fuming fight. Instead, talk about how you feel instead of attacking the other person with accusations and violations. Tell her how you feel, because accusing the other person will only leave her defensive. And you won’t be able to reach any solution.
So express the underlying problem by telling her exactly how you feel and not by finger pointing.
4.Discuss only when you are not fuming with anger.Â
You will never reach a solution when you are still mad and angry. It will only bring up explosive, dramatic exchanges.
So it’s always better to take a break for some time and then get back to discuss the problem in a cool and calm state of mind. That way you both will be able to participate in a tough conversation.
5.Be Specific with Your Appreciation.
if you really want to mend your relationship, then praise your partner more specifically. Sometimes we get so lost in the daily sequence of tasks that we forget to praise our partner.
Express your appreciation for your partner very specifically. This will encourage the good behavior on her part.Tell her exactly what you like about her. Be specific about the qualities you value in her. And do that often.
All relationships require a lot of effort and nurturing to be healthy. And usually all the effort has to be done by you, because waiting for the other person to change will be a sure shot recipe of disaster.
So lower your resistance and don’t worry about who has more power in your relationship.