Losing passion as time passes is common in many relationships. While some couples face dry spells, others face a year or more of drought. The good news is that a non-existent sex life can usually be shifted back into drive.
1. Communication
Talk to one another about the issue. Sexless relationships can go months or even years without being addressed because it could be an awkward conversation. A sexless relationship is scarier than a weird talk. Face the fire and communicate that sex is important to you.
Your significant other might be feeling the same way or might not understand there is a problem. Getting everything out there on the table opens the door to figuring out the deeper issues and helps begin the process to fix these issues. Not talking about the issue just makes it worse as the days go by.
2. Romance
A little romance often goes a long way. The simple act of touching your partner by just holding their hand is a very romantic gesture. Romance is all about thinking about one another. Showing the other how much you care with romantic gestures can light the fire. It involves committing time for each other.
You could even create a sex schedule so you both can look forward to your date nights. These special occasions give you time as a couple to reflect on each other, talk about life and take it up a notch in the bedroom.
Don’t forget that the beginning of your relationship was filled with dates and passion, all you need to do is put the thought and the effort to recreate that magic.
3. Change It Up
Do away with the monotony in your sex life. Change it up in subtle ways. Play dress up for a little fun. Try different positions or different locations to make sex exciting again. Having sex the same ways can get old for both of your after years and years of repetition.
Surprise the other by taking them on a crazy date that you never have before and end the date in a crazy place to make love. If you’ve been in a relationship for a while you know one another like the back of your hand.
Give the other something to talk about and pull out a few new tricks. Change isn’t always scary, it can be wild and exciting!
4. Couples Counselling
A professional counsellor is often the best choice for couples when communication between them isn’t cutting it. Counselling can often be hard as couples might need to dig deep to find a deeper reasoning as to why passion is lacking.
An outsider’s unbiased opinion can be helpful to resolve these issues and open the doors of communication leading to higher passion. A change of habits, lots of communication and a little lube could be a fix to a problem you thought couldn’t be solved before you walked in for a sexual theory session.
5. Physical
Get a check up at the doctor’s to make sure there are no underlying medical conditions leading to a lack of sex drive. The loss of sex drive might not just be in your head.
Many medications, as well as depression and anxiety, can lead to a lower sex drive. Diseases such as diabetes or even a hormonal imbalance can lower sex drive. Once you know the medical issue you can talk to your doctor about ways to combat the lack of sex drive.
Bringing passion back into your relationship is important because a sexless partnership could lead to infidelity or a break. Stay positive above all else and begin the road with your partner to ignite the passion.