Porn Can Make or Break Your Sex Life
Deepak Arora
He is Founder of Deepak Arora's Online Consultation "India's No.1 Online Sexual Health Consultation". He is a Professional Member of American Association of Sexuality Educators Counselors and Therapists.
Porn Can Make or Break Your Sex Life
Indian couples have always had apprehensions when it comes to watching porn together in bed. But as everyone thrives to keep up the passion alive in their sexual lives, watching porn has become fairly acceptable. As more and more couples are getting out the shell and agreeing to watch porn together, the primary reason remains to enhance their sexual performance.
While some do it in a bid to fulfill their sexual fantasies, others may just try to pick newer lovemaking ideas. Nevertheless in both cases, chances are high that porn viewing can affect their sexual relationship to a large extent. But, it’s entirely up to a couple to decide that in which direction they want to direct their sex life.
On one hand, porn can highly sabotage their sex lives, as a partner may become too demanding and wishes to perform the porn actions in real life too against the other partner’s wish. On the other hand, taking fascinating hints from porn may add the much needed spice in a couple’s mundane sex routine.
So let’s explore the possibilities if porn can make your relationship go for a toss or give you more reasons to heighten your intimacy.
WHAT TO LEARN FROM PORN
PROLONGED FOREPLAY: Porn flicks often pay more attention on foreplay and arousal acts, which help in building the passion before a couple proceeds towards the act of intercourse. So if you pick up the right foreplay techniques and use it in stimulating your partner to the peal, your sexual act can be even more pleasurable. Always keep the fact in mind that journey is always more thrilling than the final destination, so more you learn about the foreplay ways, the better it is for your sexual satisfaction.
NEW SEX POSITIONS: Indian couples would hardly pay any heed to digging into books or magazines to find out about new positions they can try in bed. Here, porn often comes as a blessing in disguise. By watching different and never-tried-before sex movements, you can actually get over the boredom that has somehow invaded your sex life and start afresh with innovative moves and poses. The joy of experimenting with newer ways would surely give a boost to your libido and your performance would indeed get enhanced.
ORAL PLEASURE: There has been an evident reluctance towards oral sex, especially from the females who aren’t very comfortable giving oral pleasure to their partners. By viewing the act of oral sex being performed in porn flicks, they can at least give it a try and see that how pleasurable it turns out to be for the male partner. The only reason behind learning the oral act for porn flicks is to bring zeal in your sex life because refusals to perform oral sex can often displease your partner. So it’s better to develop a level of comfort and perform it with much ease.
UNDRESSING: Very rarely couples would prefer indulging in a romantic and sensuous undressing session, rather they hurry to go naked and get going or some actions between the sheets. By doing so, they often fail to realize that baring it all at once would not serve any purpose and make the entire sex session look so dull and monotonous. So, take hints from porn flicks, as it often show the undressing stretch in a very intense and exciting way. Once both partners are equally involved in undressing each other, but slowly revealing the body parts, the sexual mood would surely get enhanced for the actual act.
WHAT NOT TO LEARN FROM PORN
WILDNESS: It is okay to harbour wild and crazy fantasies that are mostly picked from porn flicks but it might not be a welcome thing by your mate. Treating your partner like a sex object and behaving like a wild animal in bed might do more harm, than good, to your sex life. Believing that every wild move shown in porn is realistic, you cannot put your relationship on stake by expecting your partner to perform those as per your desire. It’s better to keep the wild actions at bay and perform the act in a calm way to make it more enjoyable.
Unnatural ways: Agreed that experimentation is the key to a great sex life but that doesn’t mean you go to an extent of trying unnatural ways of sex. Many couples nowadays are keen on trying ‘anal sex’ and in most of the cases, it happens against the other partner’s wish. Such a choice to follow porn blindly would bring unwanted troubles in your sex paradise. So, it is suggested that limit your enjoyment to only watching these unnatural sexual ways in porn flicks and try not to inculcate the same in your real lives.
Hurtful approach: When passionate love gestures like kissing, caressing and licking each other’s body parts start hurting either of the partners, it’s of course not a good sign for your relationship. As shown in porn flicks, many couples often try to reiterate the hurting ways of intimacy with the partner and this is the biggest mistake they commit. Pain cannot always lead to pleasure, so it is important to understand that anything which is hurting your partner emotionally or physically cannot be enjoyable.
Dirty sex: Taking a dip in the mud pond or bathing in the sand together can be quite stimulating for a couple but getting clumsy and dirty during sex might be disgusting. Porn flicks usually show the couple getting involved in all dirty ways during sex – be it a woman swallowing the male’s sperms during oral act or the man discharging his sperms on a woman’s body while climaxing – things like these aren’t really pleasing for real life couples. So do not get carried away by things that appear to be great to give a kick to your libido as chances are high that it will leave your partner with a gross feeling and in a state of discomfort.
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