There are endless ways to enhance your sexual performance and most couples would make sure by all means that they give and get the desired satisfaction in bed. But at times, they fail to realize that little things can mar their bedroom pleasure. It’s important to know that asking some irrelevant questions - either not related to sex or that can break the concentration - can irritate your partner and spoil the sex session completely.

 

So we give a lowdown on top questions that men and women should strictly avoid asking while lovemaking moments…

 

1. Are you in? If you have doubts that your man is unable to insert in properly, it’s better to guide him yourself instead of asking foolish things like ‘are you in’. This sounds very insulting because a male partner may feel that he doesn’t know much about how to perform well in bed and in turn might affect your sex life adversely.

2. Have you ever considered Viagra? There are ways and time to ask and say certain things. Asking your man about whether he would prefer opting for Viagra - that too while he is performing the sexual act, will only make him feel worthless in bed. Agreed that his organ size or hardness might not be what you would have desired but making a mention of such things during sex would never solver the purpose rather it will backfire and spoil your mood. So wait for an appropriate time and try conveying it to him that he should seek an expert’s advice to do something about his organ size or erection, which can bring you sexual satisfaction.

 

3. Can you see that spider on the ceiling? Saying such dim-witted phrases would not only disrupt your male partner who is performing the act but would show that you are concentrating less on the act and more on the surroundings. Even anything around is bothering you, look for the right moment and then tell your partner and not just barge in while the act is on.

 

4. Is that all? Women do expect a lot, they do harbour sexual fantasies but are too hesitant to share it with their male partner. And just when the sexual pleasure is mounting, she would, out-of-nowhere, interrupt and asks - is that all? This clearly shows that you are left unsatisfied and the male partner who has done so much to please you would start feeling the guilt of not being able to make you happy. Thus it’s better to let your man know what you want in bed and how he can satisfy you by various sexual moves and gestures.

5. Will you wake me up when you're done? You cannot expect your man to even touch you after you’ve said anything of this sort. Sex is about enjoying the blissful moments with your lover and if you give an impression that you’re sleeping during these intimate moments, no one can save your sexual relationship from moving towards hell. Always appear to be equally excited and aroused as your male partner and then witness the passion felt like never before.

6. Shall I take the pill now or later? Men have all reasons to hate if you keep prompting during sex that you have to take the pill. It shows your deviating state of mind and also implies that you are less into the present mood and more worried about the aftermaths of the sexual interaction. If the pill is so important, just wait for your partner to get over the act and then take it without making much noise in front of him.

 

7. Have you locked the door? Why can’t you be more attentive and ensure that things are in place well before you get going for some action in bed? Just when your male partner is trying to build the mood, imagine how frustrating will this sound if you tell him that you forgot to lock the door. So avoid such careless mistakes that can mess up your sex romp.

8. Have the kids slept properly? Women are always concerned about whether kids have had their meals and slept or not. But have you ever realized that having these things on your mind and more than that saying them in bed while with your partner can just kill the passion. Once you have slipped between the sheets for some wild action, keep the kids and all worries aside and focus on your lovemaking times.

 

 

1. Can we turn off the lights? It’s always good to look into your partner’s eyes while making love to them. But sounding keen on switching off the lights may hint that you are unhappy with your woman’s physical appearance. Remember that you can only enjoy sexual moments with your lady love only if you are happy with her body, so avoid asking such silly things during sex.

 

2. Did you wash yourself before this? Sex is all about giving pleasure to your partner and hence there has to be a comfort level. There might be a situation when either of the partner is not smelling nice but don’t be blunt and rude. Rather say it politely, let’s go for a bath first and then some sex. This way it solves your purpose too and doesn’t make a woman feel bad about her body odour.

 

3. Am I your first? It’s not a big deal to share about past with your partner and ask about theirs but, asking such a question during tender moments can have its own side-effects. Your woman will feel highly dejected and offended if you ask her whether you are the first man in bed with her, especially during sex. 

 

4. You know you’re better than my ex girlfriend? Women hate comparisons and they feel equally jealous whenever you mention about your past relations. And if this happens to be about your sex escapades and you compare her with your ex, there is a possibility that she will avoid you in bed and thus your sex life will get spoiled.

5. Have you ever heard of breasts implants? Everyone knows that men find heavenly pleasure while touching their female partner’s twin assets. But if at any point of time during sex, you make a mention of breast implants, she would immediately get a feeling that her size is inappropriate. This not only hints that she is lacking somewhere but may also induce an inferiority complex in her and she might withdraw herself form physical intimacy in future.

6. Are you enjoying? Sharing feedback with your partner about your sexual performance is a good thing but it’s advised to keep aside these talks for after sex moments. If you keep asking her to analyze your each and every move during sex, she might lose interest in performing anymore. Hence, try and make an effort to give her maximum pleasure and once she has had a gratifying orgasm, you can make way for a healthy conversation and then ask her about your performance too.

 

7. Are you ready for another round of sex? Well, this could act both ways. If you ask this at just the right moment, when your wife has climaxed and is seeking more pleasure, it can bring more joy. But if you ask such a thing in between the first round, it can do more harm than good. Showing your anxiousness for another round of sex may mean that you are not focusing on the present moments but planning for next round. This surely affects your performance and your partner won’t take this in a positive way.

 

8. Will you excuse me to attend that call? During the sexual act, a woman would never tolerate any kind of interruption. So asking her to wait because you need to attend a phone call has all reasons to make her feel bad. By doing so, you are not only making her feel that the call was much important than her but also in a way let your intimacy get affected by such secondary things. So it’s suggested to keep your mobile on silent mode or rather switch it off while you are in bed with your mate.

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